Take the time to do what makes your soul happy.
I guess this means I’m reading, talking to my Gran and going to the gym today. :)
Have a happy Tuesday everyone.
A strange thing happened to me after work today. I couldn’t stop thinking about it, then I wondered why I thought it was so strange. It was actually just an act of kindness and I was overthinking it too much.
After work I went to a Superdrug with my colleague and we were discussing the pros and cons of me buying a dairy milk mix bag, when the man in front of us turned around and said I should. If you know me, you’ll know the debate was about my chocolate addiction, and the fact I went to the gym and didn’t want to undo all of my hard work. Well, I had to buy the chocolate in the end because the man handed me £1, even though I attempted to refuse. Then to my shock, he paid for his things and forced another 50p in my hand, which he followed by saying ‘Hi, my name’s Shaun’, then casually walked away and completely disappeared.
I mean, who does that? It was really random and slightly weird. Yet now I’ve thought about it, I realised it can help me with my Project Happiness. I’m trying to think of 100 selfless acts to do for other people and this can actually go on my list!
Usually, when people do things like that you assume they expect something from you or want something. It’s fair to say that Shaun disappearing proved otherwise.
I’m quite overwhelmed by the kindness and I would love to surprise somebody with that sort of act one day.
Hopefully, everyone will do so many selfless and kind acts for each other that it will no longer be a surprise that people can be capable of such things.
Thank you Shaun.
Hi, I need help. No, I don’t want you to hypnotise me in order to stay away from chocolate.
Project Happiness is underway and I’m currently thinking of selfless and kind acts people can do for strangers. However random it may be, I want to hear it! I’m trying to think of 100 and am nearly there!
I’ll post them as soon as the list is finished. I’m open to suggestions so please leave a comment.
Where there’s a will, there’s a way. Where there’s a smile, there is hope.
Every single person in this world has strengths. Whether it’s one, twenty or over a hundred. What are yours? Believe me, you have them.
If you’ve been through anything trivial in life, you’ve passed pain or you’re still making your way through it, then you can pull a handful of strengths from that. The ability to survive, the ability to turn away from it, the strength to fight through, the incredible gesture of smiling or being selfless to complete strangers when you’re going through a world of pain. All of these things require strength in character, there are so many I haven’t even mentioned!
I started with the concept of pain simply because we all go through it. Then again, we all go through happy moments. There are even more strengths to be taken from positive situations.
Write down your top 5 strengths, (you don’t have to comment on this post, you can just do it for yourself), and then focus on them. Really believe you own them. Those five things, they’re a part of what makes your character. There’s nothing good about self-depreciating behaviour, if that is a trait. Shying away from what makes you a great person doesn’t benefit anybody in any way.
Think about your strengths and focus on how you show them every day. Write it all down and keep it for the moments when you forget your own worth.
It might take a while to think of, in which case ask your friends, family, the guy who serves you at your local cafe…
My Top 5 Strengths:
1) I like to help people.
2) When I love, I do it with all my heart.
3) I’m a great mediator- who works with doses of sarcasm and laughter.
4) I’m creative- without my creativity I wouldn’t have a clue who to be.
5) I’m thoughtful, which in turn makes me kind.
It feels weird declaring finding things I like about myself, but I’ve learnt that to have a good life you have to first learn to love yourself.
I hope this helps someone’s day, somehow. Even if it makes you laugh or smirk… I don’t mind. :)
I’m thinking of starting a new theme on my blog, something that helps people realise all the good in them.
I want to do little activities that help you think, make you want to feel good about yourself and be happy. Lately I haven’t been feeling myself, (a three day trip to my friend’s fixed this – with the help of airplane mode on my phone and her larger than life family), I was feeling lost, as if I’d forgotten why I do what I do.
The ‘why’ is so important. It’s the reason ‘for’ and ‘against’. I finally remember why I do what I do. Apart from the fact that I love reading and writing, I’ve always wanted to help others through writing. I had to remind myself that’s why I started in the first place. The thought of being able to change somebody’s day or influence them in a good way makes me feel like I’m working towards a goal. There’s no better way for me to do this than write. It’s my best form of communication. Well, I can also talk, a lot, an communicate that way but there’s something special about the written form. Once it’s down on paper, or electronic device, it can be reread. The words that helped one person can be recycled to help the next.
I do mean ‘recycled’. They don’t necessarily have to be what I said word-for-word, but if someone can spin that for themselves into something even more meaningful, something that could further help someone else they know, then I’m more than happy for my words to be recycled.
I think the beauty of this decision is that in wanting to help others I realised the solution to my own mood. I guess everything happens the way it needs to, for us to learn at the most opportune moments.
I’ll keep you updated on my entire positivity mayhem thing that I’m thinking of starting!
My logic seems to work, or I think my logic seems to work, when I’m suffering from acute post-gym hunger.
Apparently my body needs chocolate to give it a good kick, and apparently I’m really crap at fighting my on-going chocolate addiction. I don’t always write on here when I’m not doing well, mainly because it makes me realise just how addicted I am.
The thing is, I don’t have an addictive nature. It’s just this one thing and I think it’s more from a lack of knowledge than it is from craving. I just don’t know what to eat instead when I need energy, or what to eat that will fill me up quickly the way chocolate does.
Apart from chocolate, I’ve actually got an amazing diet (minus the occasional Nando’s and Chinese take-away… ). I wonder how long my next ‘giving-up chocolate’ session will last. At least I know I can do it.
I’ve done it before for half a year. Maybe I’ll set myself a goal to beat that. Maybe after this packet of M&Ms.
You shouldn’t make decisions based on what makes you feel safe. Make your decisions based on what makes you feel alive. Life might be too short for regrets – but it’s far too long to live with a compromise.